A few weeks ago I wrote a post called “the core beliefs of recovery”. It got a lot of comments and was one of the most read posts ever on this blog. The idea was simple. There are a few core beliefs about recovery that make a difference. To the extent you are able to live them your recovery will be positively impacted.
My list of core beliefs was simple:
Life can get better.
I can help make it better.
I can learn the things I need to do to make it better.
I have support. People care about me and what I am doing.
What I do matters. It has meaning and purpose.
These core beliefs have become both prayer and plan for me. One of the things that I have always believed is that things that I hope to do, that I want to do tend to not get done unless I do them on purpose. And so I have started consciously and purposefully to try to weave these core ideas into the way I live.
I try to end each day with some moments of taking stock.
Hope- What got better today?? What looks like it might be better tomorrow? What is the momentum in my life?? Even if events did not get better did I?? Did I learn things or do things that offer hope for tomodrow? If the day is not better how am I better for the day??
Empowerment- How did I make a difference?? How can I take what I learned today and make a difference tomorrow?? The things I did not affect today have I done better with on other days?? What can I do, what do I need to make a difference tomorrow?
Capability- What did I learn today?? How can I use it tomorrow?? What do I need to get better at?? What do I need to celebrate about today in preparation for tomorrow??
Support- How have I been supported today?? How have I supported?? Where is my support for tomorrow??
Purpose- What was the point of today?? How was it part of finding a better life?? What is the point of tomorrow?
All of these connect. Sometimes a conversation about one becomes a conversation about all. Sometimes just thinking about one is plenty enough. It is a way of making sense of making sense.
It is not a panacea. Some days seem to offer nothing and my prayer is to leave it and be grateful for new days.
But I know recovery is never a thing to have, but a way of doing. I hope and pray that today and the days to follow will be a doing better for you and life brings much to celebrate.