Life has an annoying habit of being hard especially when you are fed up with it being hard. I know I am worn out on hard and ready for easy. I try to remember that the difficulty of my life is not a measurement of its quality. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t.
Here are some ideas about hard times:
Know how things are going. Pay attention. Too often we dont. We are shocked when things all of a sudden seem to go poorly. It seems like it comes out of nowhere. And we miss so many good things. Sometimes I wonder where I was.
Think about momentum. Going better…..Going worse. Bad things are less likely in going better. Good things are less likely in going worse. Do things on purpose that impact the momentum of your life. A thousand things too. None of them by themselves tip the scale but the accumulated weight of them may tip the scales of your life. Keep a pulse on the direction of life. What can you do differently that makes a difference.
The more effectively you deal with getting worse the less often you will have to deal with worse. Have a plan. Make sure it is a plan you can do, want to do, that you can tell if it works, and that you can continue to make better as times go on. One friend told me the secret to not getting run over by a car was to learn not to stand in front of them. See the cars coming.
Dont do life alone. Support and be supported. Talking to yourself is okay but as the only thing on the menu it isnt much. Life is best shared. It is not a solo act. Other people have a way of seeing when you cant see, hearing when you dont listen, caring when you dont care and cheering even when you think you dont deserve it.
Do things that matter. Live life like it means something, like it about something. We need something to complete us. Without purpose we paddle furiously but never get anywhere.
Learn. From everything. Define events by what you take a way from them. Learn things that matter and make a difference Even the worst of times offers a chance to learn something.
Wait. When you cant do anything dont. Just wait. Make sure when you can you do. Some things are just survival.
Remember feelings are not facts. They are just hypotheses that you must check out. They are meant to be listened to but listening need not mean obeying. Pay attention but know paying attention means listening to more than one thing.
Life is an infinite procession of invitations: to be angry, to be sad, to be glad, to be scared, to be proud, to care, to not care. An invitation means you decide. What invitations do you decide to take??? What invitations do you normally miss?
Noise. The noise around you does not have to be the song you sing.
Count. You count. Nothing takes away from that. You can ignore it. You can act like it is not true. You can hope it is not true. You can try to make it not true. But it is true. There is a difference between the package and those things that wrap it up. You are more than ribbon.
Life sometimes must be hard. Sometimes it must seem too much. Sometimes it must seem pointless. Otherwise how would we ever know when it is not?