Have you ever noticed how some things seem so easy for other people– but never for you? Have you ever wondered why? I have.
There are so many times that I am really sincere about doing something and am really determined to try really hard and it still doesn’t happen. I either beat myself up or find somebody or something else to blame and find myself consumed by either guilt or anger. Either way I find myself a hard person to be around. Even when I know what went wrong it is still hard to get it right.
I have begun to understand the problem much better over the last few months and I think I know what is required. You have to prepare yourself to do things easily. Consider that phrase for a moment and think about what it means.
Is there really such a thing as the discipline of getting ready to… ? The answer I think is yes. There are many things in life I cannot do by direct effort. I cannot just decide to go out and run a marathon. I cannot lift a lot of weight. I cannot program a computer. I cannot read Greek. I cannot just do many, many things.
What I can do is to do the things that will make it possible to do these things. I can, in essence go into training. I can do what I need to do to get ready. People must train, they must practice to acquire control of their temper. You may not be able to control your temper, but if you practice the things that will get you ready to control your temper you will eventually be able to.
The answer to many problems in life- all the way from running farther to making better choices in life to thinking more constructively to almost anything else-is in the preparation, the training to do so. Practice may not make perfect, but it does make different.
Think about the things in your life that you would like to be able to do. Do you rely on something other than willpower to prepare to do them?
I know for me when I train for what I want to become my odds are a lot better.
No matter what kind of changes you want to make, no matter how sincere you are– don’t be suprised if the things you want to see happen never do until you make the necessary preparations for them to become reality.