Manage bad times… Recognize. Be honest. See them coming. Maintain perspective. Don’t make them bigger than what they are. They are already big enough. Don’t make them longer than what they are. They are long enough. Don’t make them about more than they are. They are about enough right now. Prevent what you can prevent. Avoid what you can avoid. Cope with what you can’t. Survive what you can’t cope with. Learn from it all. Know that injury may last longer than the circumstances that bring it. Be patient. Life sometimes sucks but know that doesn’t mean everything in it sucks or that it must suck forever.
Promote good times…. Somethings make it better. Become an expert in those things. Plan for them. Do them on purpose with commitment and perseverance. What you cannot make good make better. Value coping. Don’t dismiss it lightly. Value success and celebrate it. The more you do things good for you the better you will do. Life is often a matter of momentum and good momentum matters.
Value becoming the kind of person you want to be. Much of what we do is tied up in who we think we are. As much as you can, as often as you can practice being the person you want to be. It is never a destination but a process. Even small steps are steps.
Care about other people and allow them to care about you. Life is what we do with others. Connection matters. Believe you can. Beware accomplices. Things are already hard enough. Part of the meaning of life is in the meaning of the people in our life. Seek the opportunity of others even in a sea of deprivation. Be honest in what is and open to what can be.
Find meaning and purpose in who you are and what you do. Live like it matters. The biggest lie and deepest hurt is that it doesn’t. Human beings are incredibly strong and resilent creatures. We can cope with much when we believe it matters to do so. Meaning gives energy and direction to life. Sometimes we must find it. Often we must nurture it. But always, always prize and value it.
The conviction of recovery is that better life is possible. It is not just a special process that challenges some people but a common challenge facing us all.